Managing Logistics with Twins
[dropcaps]W[/dropcaps]hen I was single, I was fashionably late for everything by ten or fifteen minutes. According to one of my co-workers, if you aren’t ten minutes early for something, you’re late. By those standards, I was very late. Back then there was no excuse for me being late other than trying to cram too many things into one day. Now, with kids, I’m easily an hour late. But the cool thing is, nobody holds it against me! I’ve stopped giving an exact time of arrival now it’s a window of about half an hour.
It’s not for lack of trying. The diaper bag is packed the night before or during their naps. Any food or snacks are planned out the morning of. Any additional items that need to be carted around for errands, etc are laid out by the door. And while the kids are strapped in their high chairs or sleeping in their cribs, the car is pre-loaded with most everything so there’s less stuff to grab at the last minute.
[blockquote] Even taking them out on the porch for some fresh air was daunting before they were walking on their own.[/blockquote] Through trial and error, I figured out how to do it. First I’d place their bouncy chairs on the porch, then come back inside for Baby # 1. Leaving the front door open, I’d run back inside for Baby # 2. Finally, I’d have the phone and whatever snacks I needed for all three of us right by the front door so I could easily grab it once both babes were comfortably positioned in their chairs. It didn’t occur to me to bring both babies out at the same time, one on each hip, until I saw a fellow twin mom do it. I only use that as a last resort – like when I need to bring both babies up or down the stairs at the same time…mainly to save time, reduce chance of meltdowns and save me having to run up and down multiple times!
For taking them in the car, I started by placing one baby in the car with the garage door closed. Leaving the car door open with baby strapped in, I’d go back in quickly for Baby # 2. Then with both M&Ms safely in the car with toys and with each other for company, I was able to load any remaining items. The reverse is true for bringing them back home. Now it’s so much easier since they can walk and climb into the car themselves. The new challenge with that is, it takes longer to get going because they first want to play in the car and look out the back window before sitting down.
I often watch other new moms with their infants at playgroups, and part of me feels a little envious that these moms have it easy, relatively speaking, with one baby. They’re able to sit there casually with other moms and chat while their babies wiggle and crawl around. When I go out for playdates with friends I constantly have to move around and watch where M&M are going or what they are doing. When they were infants, there was always a diaper to change or a snack to give, then the cycle repeated itself. If one of them got fussy the other one would also be fussy. Now they are older and there’s more of a gap between diaper changes and snack attacks. However, I still have to watch what they do since they move around more, sometimes in different directions!
I rarely take only one child with me, mainly because if there’s someone home to look after the kids, I’d rather go out on my own to run errands. When I do go out with one, it feels strange yet relaxing. No need for the double stroller – a foldup umbrella stroller will do. No overstuffed diaper bag or cooler bag full of snacks. And best of all, if there’s a meltdown and refusal to walk unassisted, I can easily carry one child on my hip while manoeuvring the stroller back to the car. Actually, the best part is not having to split my attention equally between two children, but getting to spend quality time with one.